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Should I have a baby?

Eight honest questions about your relationship, money and the life you want.

Should I have a baby? The quiz

Choices about the people we love are the hardest kind. Go gently, and be honest with yourself. Your answers stay on your device; nobody else sees them.

1Do you really want a child, for yourself, not to please someone else?
2Does your partner want one just as much (if you have a partner)?
3Is your relationship stable and supportive?
4Could you cover the extra costs without serious stress?
5Do you have family or friends nearby who can help?
6Are you hoping a baby will fix the relationship?
7Would you resent losing free time and sleep for a few years?
8Is your health in a good place for this?
8 questions

The only decision you cannot reverse

Almost every hard choice can be undone. This one cannot. Take your time, and make sure you are saying yes to a child, not to pressure, a deadline or a hope that it will fix something else.

Questions people ask

How do I know if I am ready for a baby?

You want it for yourself, your relationship is stable, you can cover the costs, and you have support. You will never feel 100% ready; aim for a solid base.

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